Did you just have a baby? Congratulations! This is such an exciting time in your life. I am sure you are flooded with all sorts of different emotions. You probably are feeling excited, relieved, nervous, scared, etc. Just know this – YOU GOT THIS! This is such a bittersweet phase of life because it goes by so fast, but when you are in it, it seems like it’s dragging. I am here to share some tips that your partner can do to help you through this phase.
Having a new baby can be hard on the partners as well. So let’s take a second and acknowledge that. However, it is hard on the mother physically, mentally and emotionally. If you are a partner to someone who just had a baby, here are some tips to help your partner through this new phase of life.
- Tell the mother she’s doing an amazing job – do this often.
Trust me when I say, the mom of this newborn probably doesn’t always think she is doing a good job. So make sure to tell her often. Those little comments will go such a long way with her. Tell her this often! I can promise you this will help make a difference.
2. Have some solo time with the baby while mom sleeps!
Mom is exhausted – in every possible way she could be. So offer her a nap while you spend alone/quality time with the baby. Feeling like your partner is here to help you through this new phase is one of the greatest feelings a mom can feel during this time.
3. Tell mom how beautiful/hot/pretty/strong she is
Usually new moms don’t feel like themselves right after having a baby. Hearing that their partner finds them beautiful, hot, pretty, strong, etc. can be super encouraging and nice to hear.
4. FOOD – and lots of it
I have seen many times that moms forget to feed themselves because they are too busy making sure that the new baby is fed, clean, sleeping, healthy, etc. One of the last things most moms of newborns want to do is make three meals a day for themselves. So bring/make her food. Take one less worry/thing off of her plate.
5. Check in with mom often
Even if you think your partner is doing great postpartum, check in on her. Ask her “how are you feeling physically and mentally”, “is there anything I can help you with”, etc. This shows your partner that you care, but it also keeps you “in the know” of how she is really doing. If you (or her) think she needs some outside help, please seek it out!
If you are a new mom looking for some tips on how to start feeling like yourself again, here are my top tips for this!
Working with new moms is a HUGE passion of mine. Personally, I have been there and know from experience how hard this phase of life can be. Professionally, I have helped tons of women start to figure out their groove and get back to feeling like themselves again. If you are struggling, please schedule an appointment with me here! I am a therapist that works with new moms in Richmond, TX and virtually all over Texas.